Season 1,
46 min

Episode 11: Anger is a Balm (with Jaclyn Friedman)

April 14, 2016

It’s a very special crossover episode! Jaclyn Friedman, host of the podcast Unscrewed, talks sexual wellness with us, while Deanna visits Jaclyn on Unscrewed this week to talk about sexual harassment (be sure to check that out!). We discuss sexual assault on campus, how being assaulted changed Jaclyn’s worldview, the analogy of the broken stair, and how we should shift our mindset from sex  being a commodity to sex as creative/collaborative interaction. (Rowr.) Also, why you’d never force B.B. King to jam (not just because he’s dead) and how even a sexpert makes mistakes (sexually). Deanna slips “vis à vis” into the conversation real natural-like, and everyone tries to avoid using the word “journey” and fails utterly.

LINKITY-LINK LINKS

Deanna on Jaclyn’s podcast, “Unscrewed:” http://www.theestablishment.co/2016/04/12/unscrewed-podcast-fun-for-whom/

#SuckItChopra: https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10153396282481176&set=pb.550566175.-2207520000.1460595118.&type=3&theater

All Jaclyn, all the time:

http://www.jaclynfriedman.com/

Title IX and sexual assault:

https://www.aclu.org/know-your-rights/title-ix-and-sexual-assault

The Hunting Ground:

http://www.thehuntinggroundfilm.com/

Jen Sorensen’s comic:

http://fusion.net/story/60581/the-phone-rang-it-was-my-college-rapist/

The missing stair:

http://pervocracy.blogspot.com/2012/06/missing-stair.html

Thomas MacAulay Millar:

https://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/author/thomasmacaulaymillar/

George Carlin’s driving bit (which I got wrong, it’s idiot/maniac):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XWPCE2tTLZQ

IMPACT Self-defense:

http://www.impactselfdefense.org/

Alice’s post on her dreams:

http://www.alicebradley.net/blog/2016/3/4/nothing-to-see-here

That episode with Paul Gilmartin:

http://leagueofawkwardunicorns.com/post/140763951954/episode-8-abuses-and-whatnot-with-paul

Robot Hugs’ “Perfect Victim”

http://www.robot-hugs.com/perfect-victim/

How not to get raped:

http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2009/12/06/i-got-yer-rape-prevention-email-forward-right-here/

Jaclyn on enthusiastic consent:

http://amplifyyourvoice.org/u/Yes_Means_Yes/2010/11/9/Consent-Is-Not-A-Lightswitch/

Books for people recovering from sexual trauma:

http://www.amazon.com/The-Courage-Heal-Survivors-Anniversary/dp/0061284335

http://www.amazon.com/The-Survivors-Guide-Sex-Empowered/dp/1573440795

http://www.amazon.com/What-You-Really-Want-Shame-Free/dp/1580053440

MUSIC

Intro! Outro! It’s everything!

Shame Spiral by Tacocat

http://tacocat.bandcamp.com/

Riding with the King by B.B. King & Eric Clapton

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDR1-JD4Sms

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